May 10

May 10 Strategic Conversations, Part 2 - Root of All Behavior

This is part two of a five-part podcast series on leading Strategic Conversations so you can improve your results and relationships at work. Check out the first episode here.

In this episode, I explain what's at the root of all behavior. When you understand what drives people's behavior and what drives your behavior, it is so powerful, because now you know how to influence yourself and others.

What drives your actions? What drives the behavior of your negotiation counterpart?

You'll learn:

1. What emotion is and the role it plays in driving our behavior

2. The difference between neutral circumstances and thoughts, and how we become biased

3. The thinking that generated $50K then $100K in income for me

If you enjoyed this and would like to learn more about my six-week coaching program, please apply here to set up a quick consult over Zoom.

May 3

May 3 Strategic Conversations, Part 1 - Planning with Future Focus

Jamie Lee

I coach smart women to get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus, manipulating people, or burning themselves out.

How?

I teach simple but powerful concepts that help my clients engage in strategic conversations with a mindset of self-confidence and authentic power.

Over five podcast episodes, I'll be teaching each of these five simple but powerful concepts that you can immediately implement into your life and career so you can get bolder, braver, and better paid.

This episode is about the first and most important concept: Planning with Future Focus.

Three questions I ask my clients to help them with Future Focus is:

1. WHO are you in the process of becoming?

2. WHAT results do you want in the future?

3. HOW can you be your Future Self now?

If you enjoyed this and would like to learn more about my six-week coaching program, please email me at jamie@jamieleecoach.com to set up a quick consult over Zoom.

Apr 24

Apr 24 How to Negotiate Budget Cuts and Unconscious Bias with Amy Auton-Smith

Jamie Lee

I met Amy Auton-Smith at Catalyst Conference in March 2019. She shared a salary negotiation story of how she successfully negotiated a win-win solution when the budget for her position was significantly reduced. I immediately knew I'd love to have her share both her negotiation story and the story of how she started her startup on the podcast.

Amy is a long-term champion of equality and diversity. As CEO of FairFrame, she's working to bring cutting-edge tech and diversity and inclusion research outcomes together to help mitigate the effects of unconscious bias at work. Amy is passionate about helping employers and leaders everywhere to ensure that everyone can achieve their true potential at work.

Check out Fairframe.io or on Crunchbase.

Apr 10

Apr 10 Two Simple Reminders That Improve Negotiation Outcomes: Dr. Julia Bear

Jamie Lee

According to research, women's monetary negotiation outcomes improved when they did two things before negotiating:

1. Recalling the last three times they were assertive

2. Imagining that they are negotiating for a friend.

In this episode, I interview one of the co-authors of this research, Julia Bear.

We explored this research, why what and how we think impact our negotiation results, and how we can apply research like this to improve our negotiation outcomes.

Julia Bear is an Associate Professor in the College of Business at Stony Brook University. Dr. Bear’s research focuses on the influence of gender on negotiation outcomes, as well as conflict management in organizations. In her research, she investigates what factors, both individual and situational, influence the gender gap typically seen in negotiation outcomes, and how an understanding of these factors can help to reduce this gender gap in both initiation of negotiation and negotiation performance.

Other resources mentioned include:

HBR article: 10 Myths about Negotiating Your First Salary

Book: Women Don't Ask

Mar 22

Mar 22 On Money, Family, and Passion: Eric Kohner Coaches Jamie Lee Using the Five Knowledge Centers

Jamie Lee

According to Ivy Business Journal, “Executives and HR managers know that coaching is the most potent tool for creating lasting personal change.”

I think coaching is something everyone should get to test drive and experience first hand to really understand the impact of it.

But if you can't hire a coach (or find a coach-in-training who will coach you for free) the second best thing might be for you to sit in on a coaching session.

That’s why earlier this week, I invited leadership coach Eric Kohner, who trained me to coach at the Coaches Training Institute to coach me on my own money beliefs using his leadership framework called the Five Knowledge Centers.

The Five Knowledge Centers reflect:

1. Head - reason

2. Heart - love

3. Gut - intuition and vision

4. Groin - passion and drive

5. Hands - action

Eric Kohner is an internationally recognized executive coach and keynote speaker. He founded eKCosystem, a global corporate training company dedicated to bringing HUMAN BEING into business, because “in today’s highly competitive world, the new hard skills are the heart skills.”

Learn more about Eric's work here: www.ekcosystem.com

Or reach him directly via email here: eric.kohner@icloud.com

You can reach me directly via email too: jamie@jamieleecoach.com

Mar 15

Mar 15 How to Tame Your Inner Mammal with Dr. Loretta Breuning

Jamie Lee

When I first encountered Dr. Loretta's work on Youtube, I was delighted because she has created a valuable body of work that helps us understand the why and how behind our animal impulses that don't always support our human aspirations to be better, to thrive, and to be at peace with ourselves and with the world.

In this special interview, Dr. Loretta helps us see that there is nothing wrong with us -- even if our brains would have us think otherwise because of evolution, neurotransmitters, and socialization.

Loretta Breuning is Founder of the Inner Mammal Institute and Professor Emerita of Management at California State University, East Bay. She’s the author of Habits of a Happy Brain, and many other books that have been translated into Spanish, Russian, Chinese, Arabic, French, Turkish and German.

Learn more at InnerMammalInstitute.org

To learn more about me (or to sign up for the upcoming free webinar), come to JamieLeeCoach.com

Mar 8

Mar 8 The Human Brain: How Neurotransmitters Impact Negotiation Behavior

Jamie Lee

As a negotiation geek, I love thinking about how the brain impacts our negotiating behaviors. The brain is a fascinating organ. It's the human computer that can process a trillion bits per second. Yet scientists say we've only barely begun to understand how the brain works.

We know a few basic things, like how the brain evolved over millions of years and how some chemical messengers (or neurotransmitters) relay information that trigger thoughts and emotions that drive our behavior. In this episode, I talk about three neurotransmitters: serotonin, oxytocin, and cortisol.

My intention is to raise our awareness about our brains and the impact of these neurotransmitters so we can understand:

Our own impulses at the negotiating table, The why behind how other people react to your ask, and How to create better strategies for success with all this in mind.

Feb 15

Feb 15 You've Gotta Ask

Jamie Lee

In this episode, I share insights on negotiation and leadership from the book Success Affirmations: 52 Weeks for Living a Passionate and Purposeful Life.

In week 17, the affirmation is:

I am asking for what I want and need with a positive expectation that I will get a YES.

Some of the useful tips on asking include:

Ask as if you expect to get it Assume you can Ask someone who can give it to you...

I share my own thoughts, insights, and tips to help you ask for what you want so that you can become bolder, braver, and better paid.

If you'd like to check out details about the upcoming mastermind, come over to https://www.jamieleecoach.com/mastermind

Or email me at jamie@jamieleecoach.com

Feb 8

Feb 8 How to Generate Self-Confidence without Faking Anything

Jamie Lee

We all know self-confidence helps you get more of what you want. But how do you get confident if you haven't yet gotten what you want?

There's a better way than "fake it till you make it," pretending to be something you're not, or blowing yourself up like a blowfish...

The best way is to generate confidence inside of you, by you and for you.

This is something I help my clients do so they can become bolder, braver, and better paid.

This episode is a replay of a webinar where I shared five simple steps anyone can master to generate self-confidence.

If you'd like to watch and not just listen to the replay, come to www.jamieleecoach.com or email me at jamie@jamieleecoach.com.

Feb 1

Feb 1 Why Do You Assume the Worst-Case Scenario?

Jamie Lee

"I'm afraid of losing all my money and becoming a bag lady."

"I think they are going to criticize and rebuke me."

"They will pigeonhole me for what I've done, not what I can do."

Does your brain assume the worst-case scenario when it comes to your career and interactions with other people?

If so, what's the impact of assuming the worst? What's the upside and what's the downside?

In this episode, I share:

- my personal experience of assuming the worst and living in survival mode

- two of the "worst-case scenarios" that actually happened in my life

- some biases I'm choosing on PURPOSE so that I can thrive, not just survive.

If you enjoy this podcast, you'd enjoy joining me at my upcoming webinar. Come register at www.jamieleecoach.com

Or write me for suggestions, thoughts, and more: jamie@jamieleecoach.com

Jan 25

Jan 25 How to Set Boundaries Without Giving Up Power

Jamie Lee

Clients often tell me that they struggle with setting boundaries at work. The feelings associated with this are resentment, victimhood, and powerlessness.

Here's the good news: It's totally possible to set and maintain boundaries without giving up personal power when you take 100% responsibility for your own emotions and actions. This leads to both self-empowerment and healthy relationships.

In this episode, you'll learn

- How other people and external circumstances don't create our feelings,

- How emotional dependency leads to manuals that disempower, and

- The difference between a manual and boundary

If you'd like to register for the upcoming free webinar or to get in touch with me for a trial coaching session, email me at jamie@jamieleecoach.com.

If you'd like to read past podcast transcripts, go to https://www.jamieleecoach.com/podcast

Jan 18

Jan 18 Why It Feels Gross to Claim Value for Ourselves

Jamie Lee

Clients often tell me, “It feels gross to claim value for myself. It feels like bragging. It’s uncomfortable to assign dollar value to my accomplishments.”

In this episode, I dispel a persistent myth -- one that was ingrained in me by the patriarchy from a very young age -- that holds us back from generating real self-worth and authentic self-confidence.

Find out how to generate power, so you can claim value for yourself and become unstoppable as a negotiator.

Here's where you can access transcriptions of previous episodes and get in touch with me: https://www.jamieleecoach.com/podcast

Your review on iTunes would be super appreciated!

Jan 4

Jan 4 How to Break the Habit of Being You

Jamie Lee

Out of unconscious habit, I've thought that there's something wrong with me. I've thought, "I'm lazy. I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough."

Thinking this way had me feeling shame, anxiety, and self-loathing.

This negative mindset did not motivate me to inspired action.

In 2019, I'm committed to breaking this habit, so I can love myself more fully and create more intentionally.

I share my three biggest takeaways from the awesome book "Breaking the Habit of Being You" by Dr. Joe Dispensa (https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Habit-Being-Yourself-Create/dp/1401938094), which are:

1. Mind Creates Reality

2. Mind Shapes Body

3. To Change is To Think Greater Than How We Feel

Dec 14

Dec 14 How to Become Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid with Klay S. Williams

Jamie Lee

How do ambitious people actually become bolder, braver, and better paid?

By making a contribution.
By committing to their life's purpose.
By risking their authenticity, even when there's only $500 in the back pocket and not much else, other than a dream.

This the story of Klay S. Williams, whom I met at a Dress for Success event in 2016.

Klay helps Fortune 500 professionals find their true purpose and satisfaction in four areas of life: Career, Relationships, Spiritual Lives, and Health. He's the founder of Plan A Enterprises, LLC, a full services lifestyle firm. He's also an author, speaker, and host of Plan A Konversations (the podcast) and Bookstr Wellness, a new digital TV show showcasing authors in the mind-body-spirit space.

Dec 10

Dec 10 Interview with Aeric Meredith-Goujon: How to Negotiate and Coach Relationships

Jamie Lee

If you're a human being in, wanting to be in, or who just got out of a relationship, you won't want to miss this interview with relationship coach Aeric Meredith-Goujon.

Aeric is a visual artist, musician and relationship coach. He lives in Brooklyn with his wife and two kids.

In this conversation, Aeric and I explored
- How getting married is an exercise in interest-based negotiation
- How relationships can have a purpose
- The difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict
- How different orientations can cause misunderstanding and, what to do about it

You can learn more about Aeric here: aeric.nyc

You can sign up for my upcoming webinars here:
www.jamieleecoach.com/free-coaching-live

Dec 4

Dec 4 A 15-Year Career Retrospective Introspective

Jamie Lee

What did you desire for yourself in the past? What did you think and believe in the past that have now become your current reality? What do you believe now? What is your dream for the future? These are some of the questions I answer for myself in this career retrospective introspective episode.

Nov 19

Nov 19 How to Use Future Gratitude as Networking Fuel

Jamie Lee

What if you can decide how you want to feel in the future? What if you can use gratitude to fuel your strategic interactions so that you can become bolder, braver, and better paid? In this special episode, I share a quick five-minute exercise that you can do ahead of a networking event to transform how you think, how you feel, and therefore how you show up.

Nov 9

Nov 9 Future Focus and Goal Shame

Jamie Lee

“Why do you need to articulate your future potential as part of your negotiation strategy?” I address this question and explain the importance of future focus for you, for your negotiation, and for your leadership.

I share my updates for 2018 “Wild and Improbable” Goals and how I am dealing with the shame of not yet having achieved my ambitious goals.

Thriving is not about being “happy-happy-joy-joy” 100% of the time.

In order to thrive, you need to embrace the pain of growing and the sting of rejection and shame.

To learn more about my small group mastermind, go towww.jamieleecoach.com

Nov 1

Nov 1 The People-Pleasing Trap

Jamie Lee

How differently would you show up to ask for help, work, or money if you didn't have the need to please people?

My bet is that you'd be bolder, braver, and as a result, better paid.

I have a lot of experience with the people-pleasing trap, because I'm a recovering people-pleaser.

In this episode, I explain how this fear of displeasing others holds us back from asking, receiving, and thriving.

You'll learn:
- Why and how the life-long training to please others started
- Why our brains confuse other people's displeasure as a threat
- Why it's impossible to please others with who we are, what we say, or what we do
- Three ways we can get triggered to sabotage our outcomes
- Three ways we can work ourselves out of the people-pleasing trap
- Five of my recurring stressful thoughts around pleasing people
- How I turn these thoughts around to instill a new mindset of growth, appreciation, and confidence

Come check out www.jamieleecoach.com for details on Small Group Mastermind, private coaching, and speaking services.

Oct 26

Oct 26 Interview with Vivian Giang: Six Common Negotiation Mistakes

Jamie Lee

If you're a pragmatic negotiation geek like me, or if you want to improve your negotiation skills so that you can thrive, you won't want to miss this interview with Vivian Giang.

Vivian is a business writer covering how the changing workplace has impacted the way we work and live, in areas related to automation, robotics, team dynamics, executive leadership, and management. She asks, "How do you navigate these waters while also creating credibility and relevance?" She writes about these topics for business publications, like Fast Company, Fortune, Quartz, Dealbreaker, and Marie Claire.

In this value-packed conversation, Vivian and I addressed each of the six common negotiation mistakes as highlighted in this Fast Company article: www.fastcompany.com/90225908/all-the-things-youre-doing-wrong-in-negotiations

We discussed:
- Why it's important to start with your why before asking for the what
- The impact of anchoring effect on the bargaining range
- How making assumptions creates negotiation pitfalls
- Why you may not want to accept the first offer
- How to differentiate between short-term and long-term wins
- How negotiators can prepare strategically to avoid these mistakes

You can find Vivian on Twitter at @vivian_giang.
You can learn more about my negotiation coaching and training services here www.jamieleecoach.com