Neutrality = Power

I had a boss who liked to cut me off EVERY time I spoke at a meeting.

It would absolutely piss me off.

I quietly seethed at work and then would lash out at home.

I felt powerless and stuck.

If only my boss would change, if only my environment changed, if only my circumstances changed, THEN I would feel better and do better, I thought.

Unconsciously I’d made myself victim to externalities I couldn’t change. I’d ruminate then spiral.

One day my partner looked me in eye and said, “You’re in control of your career.”

It stunned me, like being confronted with a giant billboard of truth… except I didn’t know how to make it real.

Years later, what made this FINALLY click for me was learning about the neutrality of circumstances.

What other people say and do, things happening outside of us that we cannot change, are completely neutral — until we have a thought about it.

Thoughts, unlike circumstances, we can choose. We are in control of our interpretations, the story of our career.

I learned this is the secret of effective leaders and negotiators who calmly respond to any pushback or person with creativity and resilience, rather than giving up.

Accepting neutrality leads to power.

It led me to peace, the ability to respond to any circumstance, and a new career I love.

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