Unwinding Socialized Guilt
💡 Indulge me in this thought experiment: What if you lost the ability to think these thoughts:
➡️ "I could never secure the promotion to CXO, because I don't have an MBA."
➡️ "What if people see me as a cruel so-and-so, when I share my honest, evidence-based opinion about Steve's lackluster performance?"
➡️ "I've not done enough to feel good about asking for paid time off / additional headcount / help that my soul knows I need to alleviate my stress."
Might you, Jamie, feel lighter, more energized, freer to go and ASK for what you want?
OR
Might you feel like you're up against a wall of GUILT?
For many smart, competent women, the mere idea of being free of their self-doubts can trigger Socialized Guilt.
Socialized Guilt is the culmination of -- over a lifetime -- being exposed to patriarchal conditioning, the message that we're wrong to take up so much space, to have power and to wield authority, because we're *supposed to* defer to others.
(I was born in South Korea and, in the first grade, the *supposed to*s were drilled into my little noggin' through textbooks that depicted young children bowing to older men.)
Here's the thing about Socialized Guilt which underpins habitual self-doubt:
❌ It can't be outrun by hustling 'til burnout or shopping 'til you drop
❌ No amount of people-pleasing makes it go away
Here's what it DOES take to dissolve it:
✅ A nuanced understanding of your brain, so you have the agency to redirect it
✅ A compassionate feminist perspective that doesn't vilify NOR re-victimize you
This is EXACTLY what I'm offering at the Live event:
The Feminist Cure of Self-Doubt
Let's make 2024 the year you go BEYOND outdated socialization.
See you there,
Jamie
P.S. Would your women friends benefit from this? Please be a friend and forward them the invite.
P.P.S. No-BS marketing: The Feminist Cure of Self-Doubt is not a quick fix nor a miracle cure that will permanently rid you of all doubt.
After all, some worrying is productive. I've missed a flight once because I arrived at the gate 10 minutes too late, so I know I can benefit from worrying a bit more about traffic next time I catch a flight.
But as someone who's grappled with chronic self-doubt ("Ugh, I'm the worst," said a voice in my head) for most of her adult life, I can guarantee the four-step process I'll be walking you through next week shifts paradigms, changes identity, and reorients you back to your personal power.
All in a simple, easy-to-remember framework that you can do again and again.
It's an on-going practice, one I'm gladly devoted to for the rest of my life, because it brings me peace and a kind of revelatory joy that helps me shake off self-doubt and take action again and again and again.